Why Brighton Talks Sex.
As a society, we just don’t talk about sex. At best this void in not talking about sex continues the atmosphere of shame around sex, bodies and pleasure.
Our bodies are designed for pleasure. There are parts of our body that are ONLY for pleasure and no other reason.
We can experience an abundance of pleasure through our whole bodies, not just our genitals. I’m sure most people would like to know how to have more pleasure in their bodies.
So why aren’t we talking about it?
I’ve always been pretty open talking about the subjects that others find challenging, including sex. It was 8 years ago that I was first asked sex advice. Now I get weekly emails and messages, some from complete strangers.
A male friend bit the bullet in desperation and sat me down to ask me about the difficulty his girlfriend was having in achieving orgasm. As they were now having children together, he was committed to her and didn’t like the idea that he couldn’t give her pleasure.
If I remember rightly, I offered two things.
- Some very basic words on technique such as slowing down, being more sensual, lots more build up without a goal.
And more importantly…….
- That he wasn’t responsible for her pleasure.
How radical is that thought?
Even if you’re the greatest Love God/des of the land, if your partner is disconnected from their body your attempts may always fall flat.
How do we get disconnected from our body? Some people through through negative body image, some through trauma and abuse, but regardless, mostly SHAME!
There’s that word again. SHAME. That thing that is rife in society, and religion, and passes down through generations.
During my last 8-year career I have been doing everything I can to get people releasing shame and being empowered in their body. During the 6 years of running a Burlesque School across Essex, or as a Tantra practitioner and now as a public speaker, Orgasmic Embodiment Coach and Somatic Sex Educator.
So, when fellow Tantra therapist and sexy sister Michelle Roberton sat me down to discuss some projects she had in mind, I leapt at the chance to co-create a night of sexy speakers called Brighton Talks Sex.
We wanted it to be educational, entertaining and inspiring. We wanted it to be accessible to everyone, not just elitist for Tantrikas. We wanted it to be normal…hence we chose to host it in a pub very openly.
Let’s take the sex education we never had at school, and tailor it to adults.
Whether sacred, saucy or taboo we weren’t going to shy away from getting the topic of sex onto our stage.
But Brighton Talks Sex isn’t just about sex. Its about intimacy, relating, pleasure and connection. But mostly its about opening people up to more CHOICE.
Society presents a very limited version of sex, and mostly we learn that through porn. Sex education at school does not teach us about sex. It teaches us about STI’s, and pregnancy…. but nothing about pleasure.
How do we know what is available to us, if we can’t talk about it?
I want to create the space to have the conversations that no one else is having. I want to be part of the movement to release fear and shame around our bodies, our pleasure and our sexual choice.
Check out when the latest event is here: www.brightontalkssex.com